The DON’T’S and DO'S as singles

The singles and almost married column

                                                        With ngozi

Hey friends,

Welcome to the first edition of singles and the almost married column, here I am going to be exploring my heart to you guys out there on what to do as singles, the risks to take and those to avoid, the mistakes already taken and how to get out of it. I promise you that you would enjoy every bit of it.

Before coming up with this column, I did a wild search for what to offer my readers out there and yea I came out with this. You know as singles there are so many thoughts always going on in our mind, thoughts of getting married, thoughts of our career, and thoughts of being independent. Every young lady wants a rich dude or a TDH (Tall Dark and Handsome) guy for a husband, so also every young guy wants a beautiful, educated and independent lady for a wife. But the question is how do we become the lady we want to be before marriage, and as a guy, how do we become the guy we want to be before we settle down. These are things to consider first before we tie the nuptial knots. We shall first consider the DON’T’S as singles:

·        GETTING MARRIED TO GRATIFY OUR PARENTS

I sat down one day and was imagining how love looks like, yea I know it’s a beautiful thing, but it is only beautiful when we find the right person. You know I can’t help laughing each time I recall the story I came up with while I sat imagining how love would look like to me. Like I said earlier, I would be exploring my heart to you out there.

I created a picture in my mind of a girl (not me o), who was introduced to a dude by the dude’s parents, the girl was very beautiful, reserved and intelligent, and the guy’s parents saw that this girl would be good for their son and they told the guy about it when he returned from the U.S. on hearing he was living abroad the girl seemed happy and prayed they both get married. But no, not in this present age and time, the guy refused and felt disgusted each time the girl came around, he never cared if she existed each time she came visiting. She tried to be nice to him but he just felt ‘what the heck!’ On a particular day she visited him when his parents were not around, the guy sat crossed his legs watching a programme on T.V. and never noticed if she was in the house, he managed to mumble a few greeting and continued watching the television, she tried joining him in watching the programme, he still ignored her. After getting impatient at her rather intruding attitude, he put off the T.V. set

‘Hey, mum and dad are not around and won’t be back until its evening I hope you aren’t waiting for them’ he said rather disgusted by her presence

‘Em I actually came to see you’

‘O really about what if I may ask’

‘For us to get to know each other better’ she said smiling shyly

‘Yea right, you know what I’m not in the mood, so please can you get out’

‘I should leave?’

‘Yes please do’

Ladies that’s what we get from guys when we try to get to them through their parents, we would be treated like trash, and hey guys don’t think you are spared here, tell me what would it cost the rash dude to be a little friendly to the poor girl huh! Well no girl should marry a man just because he was recommended except you guys later discover that you were meant to be, if not don’t, and guys don’t marry a girl just to please your momma, if not you would end up a sad man all the days of your life.

In the next edition we shall look at some other DON’T’S before marriage. All the best. I love you with all my heart. Mwaah!
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